You Are Not A Victim...

Anyone who has experienced horrific trauma, is definitely not a victim.


They are highly respected in my eyes,and admirable.


They are a beacon of hope for others.


People who have been through trauma, have the toughest fight to fight.


They must learn to rebuild, re structure, regrow, rejust, and re-evaluate.


That alone takes hard work, dedication, and perseverance.


You have to be able to dig deep, self-reflect.


You have to address your trauma in order to even begin to heal.


That means asking yourself tough questions.


Such as ,


How do I get to where I need to be?


How do I start to unwrap the layers of my trauma?


How do I rebuild my self esteem, my self confidence?


How do I develop healthy relationships?


How do I start to love myself?


Will I learn these strategies in counseling, or in group therapy?


It’s difficult to start from starch, you learn to do so, because that inself is a step in the right direction.


Learning to cope and learning strategies to do so.


I believe with all my heart this is where your strength comes into play.


This is where you have to be your own hero.


This is where you decide how you want to write your story.


You have two options to go down a negative path which would be horrific, or can be in control of life and take it back.


This is where you can decide how you want your life to be, and what you want to look like long term.

You have this one life to live and you can make the most out of it.


You can choose happiness, laughter, love, and positive interactions.


You can use your story to be a teaching tool , and a teaching lesson for someone else.


When you choose to come out of it in a different light, you won’t be the same person again.


You will be completely different, different can be healthy, by growing into the person you want to become.


That takes courage, strength, and bravery, especially to come out of something so dark and so horrific.


There is a no victim component to the above.


The meaning behind Finding Strength Through Tragedy is finding and believing in your inner strength to go on day by day.


You will get over the horrific trauma, you will get through it, because you are a survivor, tell yourself that everyday until you believe it, and see it, put it on your mirror, and be so darn proud of the person you're looking back at. 


When the switch goes off inside of you, you will sparkle and you shine as a warrior, as a survivor, as a courageous individual with a heart of bravery and hope.


I want every single person who has been through horrific trauma, experiences, witness crime, domestic violence to know that I am here for you. I am rooting for you. I believe in you with everything I have. 


You deserve all the things that life has to offer you, love, peace, calmness, are just some examples.


Always think high of yourself, and look at yourself for the inspiration that you are and because there are so many people fighting battles of their own and you could be that hope that light for someone else.


You have gone and lived through things that most couldn’t even imagine. Please tell yourself just how proud you are of yourself. You are the definition of strength and you have redefined the definition of Finding Strength Through Tragedy.