Why Don't You Just Leave?

I have heard this specific question, "Why don't you just leave?" over and over again.

I think this question stems from a lack of knowledge, as you don't know until you're in these shoes.

It's also disrespectful to the survivor that is going through this horrific experience.

You know, if only life was that easy to pick up and leave a domestic violence situation.

Let me tell you, it's far from easy.

You don't just leave your abuser, or sometimes you just can't.

I mean, there is a financial standpoint, children could be involved, other
factors may come into place.

People don't get it until they are in this type of situation and believe me, you never want to find yourself in this situation.

You are at the highest risk of death when you leave your abuser.

That is called separation assault.

You never want to go to a friend's house or a family member; you don't want to go anywhere your abuser is familiar with.

This is where you need an exit plan, which means you need to know your local resources and reach out to them immediately, especially if you're in fear for your life or are in any kind of danger.

Let me be clear if you feel threatened, call 911 immediately.

Don't wait for things to escalate.

Local shelters will provide support and strategies to get out safely.

I was in an abusive situation in college where I couldn't just leave.

I had to have a plan as I had an apartment with this person.

I was able to get the help and support I needed to be safe and free.

If you don't have access to technology, ask a friend to call on your
behalf and take the necessary steps.

Your life is worth fighting for.

You can and will get through this by digging Into your toolbox.

You don't have to do this alone.

There is support to help guide you in a positive direction to overcome
these difficult times.

It's all about reaching out and asking for help; those are the first steps in
moving forward.

Make a plan.

You can and you will because you have the strength and the courage to leave.

You have the freedom and right to live you owe to yourself, especially if you have children.

I know it may seem so much easier said than done when action is taken, you will begin to heal and reevaluate your life, and you can take the driver's seat in your life.

It's all about putting one foot in front of the other.

Just be kind to yourself and know that support is within your reach.

You can rewrite your story.

You have the power to heal and find strength in that.

Believing is trying, and trying is believing.

Don't give up knowing your worth.