What Are The Warning Signs Of Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence will affect 1 and 3 women.

Domestic Violence does happen to men, it actually affects 1 in 4 men.


Domestic abuse includes anything from hitting slapping, sexual assault to fighting for your life. 


It can be a relationship in which you're in for a couple days, or even a couple of weeks. 


When you're in a relationship they lay hands on you or use colourful language, or take power, control, and dominance over you, that's domestic violence.


One time is one too many.


Domestic abuse does have a physical component without a doubt, however it goes so much deeper than that, it can start off as mild name calling and escalates in a blink of an eye.


 There are many different forms of abuse verbal,emotional and mentally and of course physical. 


The warning signs may include jumping into the relationship quickly, and very intense jealousy.


Abusers are secretive, non trustworthy, they flip on a dime. 


They will lose their minds over the smallest things, such as what you're wearing, who you're with, the words you say back to them.


You are literally walking on eggshells.


There is no accountability for their actions.


Their actions say everything about who they are.


They will place a significant amount of control over you, such as telling you how to dress, how to wear your makeup, which friends you can hang out with, even placing a GPS Tracker on your phone.


They may also begin to isolate you from family and friends, because they want you all to themselves, nobody but them is good enough for you.


Abusers will go to every extreme possible to keep you all to themselves without so much as a second thought. 


Thirdly threats of violence, mood changes, verbal/ emotional/ mental abuse, breaking objects, use of force during a disagreement.


 Also the abuser will most likely have a past history of domestic abuse in other relationships the abuser has been in. 


In fact the abuser will typically place blame on everyone but themselves for past relationships not working out.


They will blame their past on their upbringing, and make excuses wherever they can.


They are the definition of a cold hearted narcissist. 


Nothing is ever their fault.


They tend to see themselves as perfect .


For abusers it’s easy to place blame on everyone else but themselves.  


Not only do they lie to the person they are abusing, they also tend to lie to themselves, without so much as a second thought.


They are self absorbed.


They don’t know the meaning of love, they will betray you in a heartbeat.


Sorry I didn’t mean that is their favorite word.


They lack empathy, compassion, and remorse.


From personal experience they only escalate, just because they are calling you names one day, and yelling doesn't mean they won’t lay hands on you especially in those moments of range, and self destruction.


If you see red flags, get out while it’s safe and only if it’s safe to do so or if your in immediate danger call 911.


Know what you deserve, and need in a relationship, not what you don’t. 


Love is patience, empathy, compassion, and kindness.


Love is not threatening or violent.


Trust your gut, trust your intuition.


Believing you are worth more, is a game changer.


You have power to choose the life you want which should be free from any type of violence, because Love should never ever hurt.

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