Finding Love after tragedy is very different. Your guards are up as high as they can possibly be especially after facing a great deal of trauma. You have no trust what so ever. Coming out of tragedy or any toxic relationship really opens your eyes in more ways than you can even imagine.
You have multiple questions going through your mind. Is this person going to hit me? Do they have a temper? Do they have a police record that I know nothing about? Are they a criminal? What is their motive? Are they a cheater? Are they going to kill me in my sleep? Will this relationship be worse than my last? Will they manipulate me? Will they isolate me? Will I just be their trophy? How many other girls are telling these lines too? Is this person going to be abusive? Are they controlling?
Sometimes in an emotional outburst we can often feel the tears stream down our face. When all day we just tried to hold it together. Sometimes we scream so loud and let fear take over our lives. Sometimes we run, distance from ourselves, and from the pain.
We often find a substitute to hide from the pain in our hearts and our minds too, a shot to numb the pain, a pill to take away the shame, the guilt, a smoke to ease the pain. These are all temporary solutions ,finding the permanent solution is key to get ourselves better, and healthier.
The one that is reassuring that gives the strength and encouragement to get through the trials and turbulence. We are not defined by what life throws at us rather it's the direction we take and the path we chose to go down.