Five Ways To Survive Trauma
Trauma is a horrific life experience that rocks us to our absolute core.
Trauma can leave a lasting imprint on us for the rest of our lives.
It can shape you into who you are and who we become and the path we chose to go down.
Trauma has no expiration date or real time frame; you never just truly get over it, you can however get in front of it.
There are many effective ways to survive and overcome trauma.
The first strategy in surviving trauma is counselling.
Counselling is vital in recovering from trauma.
It’s essential to make sure that your counsellor is the perfect fit for you.
Self reflection is significant to counselling , you really want to sit down, and ask yourself some serious questions, such as
What characteristics are you looking for in a councillor?
Do you want a male or female councillor?
What are some short term goals, and long term goals for your counselling sessions?
Once you discover the benefits of counselling and what it is you want to achieve, you will be successful in your counselling and healing process.
The second step to surviving trauma is positive affirmations everyday.
We are what we tell ourselves we are.
When we believe and see the strength is ourselves we become unstoppable.
Some self affirmations may include,
I am strong.
I am worthy.
I am beautiful inside and out.
I am a warrior.
I am a survivor.
I am unstoppable.
I am loved.
I am cared for.
I am safe.
When we repeat these self affirmations to ourselves day in and day out, our brains begin to rewire.
We eventually began to believe in ourselves and believe that these self affirmations are truly who we are to our core.
Eventually these affirmations will become a habit and a routine which our brains will feel as though something is missing in our day when we forget to do these self affirmations. They will become part of our daily lives, and become a part of our new attitude towards ourselves.
It’s all about mind, body and spirit.
Thirdly is finding our passions.
What motivates you?
What inspires you?
What are your ambitions?
Most importantly, what makes you happy?
Some ideas may include, dancing, singing, art, writing a book or journaling, working out, musical instruments, volunteering at a non profit, reading, sports, knitting, marathon running.
It’s all about self discovery and adding things to your life that will not only make you stronger, mentally, and emotionally, also bring love and joy in your heart and spirit and mind.
Fourthly, is re-evaluating relationships in your life.
That means once again self reflecting and digging deep into your relationship dynamics, and what is working and what is no longer a fit for your life.
Some questions to ask yourself may include,
What does a healthy relationship look like?
What relationships are toxic?
What are positive attributes that I am looking for in a healthy relationship?
What are triggers in a relationship for me?
How do I keep building positive and meaningful relationships?
What character traits do I myself bring to a relationship?
Asking yourself those tough questions will help you to gain knowledge and clarity in your life , so you can nourish and flourish long lasting healthy relationships.
Anything that is not serving you for the great good, including people in your life, you must cut ties, otherwise healing will become a challenge.
You need people in your life who are going to love and support you unconditionally.
The fifth step into surviving trauma is not being afraid to ask for help when you need it, rather it’s counsellors, friends or even group therapy, gym friends, co-workers.
You matter in this world to so many people, even people that may not know you, but know your story.
We are all human beings and if sharing your thoughts and feelings comes out then that's beautiful itself. It is better to release feelings then keeping them bottled up inside.