Five Toxic Signs In Any Relationship...
A toxic relationship is anyone that brings you down.
It makes you question who you are, and if you're ever good enough for that other individual.
Toxic relationships are not just romantic relationships.
Toxic can be both family, friends, and co workers.
It’s anyone that isn’t serving your higher purpose.
It’s anyone in which you can’t fully be yourself around.
It makes you feel lonely, sad, and depressed.
The first sign to look out for in a toxic relationship is you don’t feel safe around the person, they may have a temper, and they may raise their hand to you.
They may even be controlling you so you feel as though you're walking on eggshells, which feels unsafe, because you're watching your every move.
Do anything you can not to piss them off or get on their bad side.
Secondly you don’t feel supported.
You feel like everything you do isn’t good enough.
You feel degraded, and that even if you made perfect grades , or got the perfect job, or got that award at work or at school, somehow in that relationship “ it’s just no big deal to that parent, co worker, or boyfriend, girlfriend or even friend.
They brush you under the rug like your success is nothing.
Thirdly, they blame you for everything that goes wrong and take no accountability for his or her actions.
They spin and twist all your words around to make you feel guilt, to make you hurt.
That's who these individuals are to the core.
They try to break you, and make you feel as though you're the cause and the root of every problem, a lot of blaming and pointing ringers, accusing you constantly.
They take zero ownership , and you're always the one left picking up the pieces trying to make it all better.
The fourth sign of a toxic relationship is manipulation and control, they always want to be in the driver's set.
The abuser has no problem taking full advantage of you and every move.
They want to know where you're going?
Who are you going with?
Have I met that person?
They chose friends and the people you surround yourself with.
They may even choose a job for you, and tell where you can and can’t work.
They may even control your physical appearance, make up, hair colour.
If it’s a parent they choose what school you go too, what career you go into.
If you find a co-worker controlling you , they take away or add to your daily tasks, until you burnout.
Control is very powerful and can lead a survivor down a very dark road, where they begin to lose sight of who they are and lose control of their decision making process.
The fifth sign in a toxic relationship is validation.
Someone who loves or cares about you is going to accept you for who you are.
They aren’t going to try to change you. It’s learning to accept those feelings and emotions and behaviours in a healthy mature manner.
It’s letting go of high expectations and appreciating that individual for everything that they are not everything they aren’t.
Yes toxic relationships can be healed, and can be fixed and worked out. However both individuals need to take ownership and be willing to voice their mistakes openly and honestly.
If both individuals aren’t willing to put in a solid effort , or the relationship becomes extremely violent then it’s time to walk away only if it’s safe to do so.
If the person or individual is only bringing down and creating pain instead of happiness in your life, then it is hard as it is. Maybe it’s time to walk away once in for all.
It’s your choice, and your decision at the end of the day.
Only you know what you deserve and are willing to put up with.
Your friends and the people around you can provide you with all the advice, you are the creator of your life, you get to paint the picture however you want, and with whatever colours and brushes you want.
Know that life should be one of love, laughter, and happiness.
Your life should be a reflection of dignity and respect.
Always treat someone how you genuinely want to be treated.
If you aren’t getting the full benefits out of the relationship with that individual rather it’s , marriage, co workers, family, friends, and romance, then talk to them and if still don't listen, then maybe the problem isn’t you it's them, maybe time apart will give them a fresh perspective on what they lost or took advantage of.
You decide who stays in your life, and who you need to cut ties with, it's your life, your decisions, your choices.