5 Ways To Rebulid Your Confidence After Trauma..

How can you regain confidence?


How can you think about being confident in yourself, after such awful abuse, and horrific trauma?


Hearing words, such as your “fucking stupid, or shut the fuck up, or what your just going to be nanny forever, your life is not worth living”.


Words such as that or having hands around your neck can be powerful and life altering.


You feel less of a person.


You have a massive whole in your heart, and your confidence becomes almost non-existent.


You feel hopelessness, and despair.


You feel the cloud of doom, and darkness.


How do you get that sunshine smile back?


The first step in order to gain and re build your confidence after struggling with trauma is to feel every single emotion you need to feel, and process those emotions.


Don’t run and don’t hide from what is your feeling because when you do your lying to yourself, which in turn sets you backwards.


You need to release your emotions in a healthy manner, cry when you need to, be mad when you need to.


Never underestimate the power of your feelings, that's how you heal and grow your confidence for the better.


It’s a stepping stone.


Secondly counselling is vital in getting your confidence back.


It’s creating and developing that level of trust with someone that doesn’t know.


It’s important to have and maintain open dialogue with someone outside your circle, someone who can listen without judgement, however also support your mental well being.


Counselling will support you to get the path of healing yourself mentally, emotionally,and even verbally, because you're having the opportunity to get things off your chest.


You're able to speak openly and honestly.


You do have  to find the councillor that is best suited for you because you're going to go into great detail about your trauma, you want someone that is a fit for you and that experience and knowledge around the different struggles you have come face to face with.


Counselling is the best medicine you can provide for yourself, and especially to help you increase confidence, and start believing in you again.


Thirdly relationships are vital to having confidence, anything toxic you should be cutting ties with that individual. 


It may be difficult to cut ties, if someone isn’t bringing you down, then you need to reevaluate that relationship and look at what it truly is, not what it’s not.


The relationships you have in your life should be meaningful, positive , inspirational, loving.


They should provide you with a sense of comfort to be yourself.


Your relationships should always be supportive and uplifting.


Your relationships are a direct indicator of who you are and want to become.


The fourth step is your relationship with yourself.


What does that look like?


Is it positive or is it purely negative?


In order to have and gain a healthy relationship with yourself, is providing self with daily affirmations.


Those affirmations can become a habit that you do every night before bed and when you wake up in the morning.


I am special.


I am remarkable.


I am a survivor looking at everything I have overcome.


I am worthy of love .


I am beautiful inside and out.


I am strong.


I am a warrior.


Now please do me a favour and look yourself in the mirror and be so proud of the person looking back at you. 


It will take time and effort. You are worth those self affirmations. 


Everyone of those words is who you are to the core, now just start believing it and the rest will fall into place.


When you believe anything is possible.


The fifth step is finding your passion.


What makes you come alive?


What motivates you?


Is it art, music, sports, the gym, singing, dancing, writing a book, blogging, running, and journaling?


The above are just a few examples.


When you find what motivates you come alive, and you feel accomplished and in return you build your confidence.


Now you have something physically to be proud of ,


Life is a choice you can either let break you down which I hope you never get to that point, or you can find yourself your ability to shine beyond every obstacle, and to come out stronger and wiser for it.


The power is yours.


Make the choice to choose confidence, because when you're confident and you believe in you the world becomes a little brighter, and you just may not impact only your life's process, you may inspire someone else along the way.


Confidence is key to a new you and fresh start.


It’s having the confidence to look at yourself in the mirror and be proud of the person you see looking back at you.


This journey starts with you.